22 August,2011 08:42 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
A few nights ago when I was with my guy, he got a text message. It was midnight and when I asked him who it was he said it was work related. He even showed me the SMS which stated that he needed to carry the project papers and go to the head office first. But when I saw the date and time received, it did not match. It was an old SMS! I did not react then. Whenever we are together at night, he keeps getting SMSes. Once I decided to check on his cellphone and was shocked thatu00a0 the message read 'Missing you love. Waiting for you. What's taking you so long?' Can I trust this man? I have not yet told him anything. Who is sending him these lovey-dovey SMSes. What should I do?
-HK
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Dear HK,
Alarm bells should definitely ring your guy is clearly lying. When you asked him the first time, he showed you an old text message. It is obvious that he is hiding something from you. Otherwise, there is no need to behave in such an odd manner. If you accost him, he will lie. You need to find out where he goes when you are not around. It is clear that there is someone else in his life, no wonder he has to play safe. Once you have figured out where he goes, your case will be stronger. Then you can ask him. I know it is going to be very difficult for you, but this man is a cheater and not worthy of you. But at the same time, you need to catch him in his game and make him realise that what he has done is wrong.
My best friend is relocating; I am depressed
Dear Diana,
My best buddy is moving to a new country as her family is relocating to Canada. We have been buddies through school and college. There is not a single day we have not spent time together. As the date of her departure draws, there is this feeling of loss and despair. I think our friendship will never be the same again.
-Shona
Dear Shona,
I can understand the sense of loss but the world is no longer a distant place. Technology has made people living in different continents connect with each other at a mere fingertip. There is the phone, SMSes, email ... there are so many ways of keeping track of every moment in her life. You can also make video calls through the internet. I am sure distance will not affect your friendship. Remember there is always the option of spending holidays together.
My wife is attracted to one of my pals
Dear Diana,
I feel my wife likes one of my friends. One night we were partying together on a beach. All her attention was on him and they spent all the time by themselves. At the bash, they were the topic of conversation. When I asked her the next day, she didn't remember anything and said that she was high! This has been bothering me ever since. What do I do?
-Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
She claims she was high and so was this friend of yours. I guess as everyone was in a beach party mood, everyone was into drinking and making merry mood. But if there were hushed whispers about them, you have every right to be concerned. You should talk to your wife about what happened. It is extremely disturbing and upsetting for a man to see his wife stuck to another man! May be they were drunk and didn't realise it. Talk to her, but think very carefully about what the outcome will be, if she admits that she does like him!