Suddenly he wants me to be his pal, not girlfriend!

Dear Diana,
I like this guy and he likes me too. We spend a lot of time together and he keeps telling me that I am that special person in his life. He has kissed me and got physical with me too. But, of late, he has started to treat me like I am just a friend. Why this sudden change? Heu00a0 refuses to give me a proper answer. Yet he says he still loves me. But I know that our relationship is not like before. The spark has gone and I am feeling miserable about it even though he appears cool. Is it better to break off with him?u00a0
- Shaila


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Dear Shaila,
It seems that your guy has a wavering mind. Mr Undecided feels that your relationship with him has lost its spark. So why not try doing something new together? The fact that he is not giving you a proper answer means that he is not serious about you. He can't just one day say you are not his girlfriend after having a physical relationship with you. I am sure there is more to it. Ask him and tell him to reply honestly. Only then take the decision whether to break off with him or not.

I don't have a boyfriend

Dear Diana,
I am 22 and doing post-graduation. Most of my friends have boyfriends or at least one guy they fancy and hang out with. I don't have anyone. Is something lacking in me?
-u00a0Della

Dear Della,
There is nothing wrong with you. It is a case of to each his own. If your pals have found guys, good for them. But that does not mean that you are lacking anything in life. You are only 22, concentrate on your studies. I am sure you, too, will find your Mr Right.

There is another woman in my hubby's life

Dear Diana,
I am 39 years old and have a 11 year-old son. My husband is having an extra-marital affair. I know that he does not really care for me or our son but I am finding it hard to break free and move on. At least we have a roof over our heads as I stay with my in-laws. They have tried to speak to him but he is in no mood to listen. He is like a visitor in the house as he comes and goes whenever he likes. Sometimes I feel so terrible about the situation and why I have to go through all this.But even if I walk out, I know life will not be easy for me.
-u00a0Raji

Dear Raji,
Your husband does not believe in the sanctity of marriage and fidelity is the last on his mind.u00a0 But you really deserve better in life. And with this guy, you're never going to get it. So you have to help yourself in the current scenario. Apart from caring for your son, give yourself a lot of 'me' time. Expand your friendships, your girl pals will always be there for you! Also engage in gainful activity to keep yourself busy and occupied. As you have chosen to remain in the situation, there is no point brooding over what is happening, take control of your life and steer it to a happy path. You alone can make this possible along with your son.