He's Just Not That Into You, a Hollywood film that's playing in theatres, is about women who can't face the fact that the men they fancy don't find them hot. iTALK helps you decode your lover's actions, and tells you if it's time to let him go
He's Just Not That Into You, a Hollywood film that's playing in theatres, is about women who can't face the fact that the men they fancy don't find them hot. iTALK helps you decode your lover's actions, and tells you if it's time to let him go
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He's Not Just That Into You is inspired by a self-help novel written by the writers of hit TV show, Sex And The City, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It follows the lives of nine characters struggling to make sense of their love lives. The cast includes Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Scarlett Johansson, Justin Long, Jennifer Connelly, Ginnifer Goodwin, Kevin Connolly, and Bradley Cooper. |
You don't have to look far to find a smart, intelligent woman who is stuck chasing the wrong man. It's happening everywhere around you. In fact, it would even be happening to you. If you want to be on top of the game, you have to read the signs and quit before he tells you to take a hike. Authors of bestselling book, He's Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are sure that if a guy has no time to call you or to ask you out, it's a definite indicator that he's just not into you.
Women who make excuses that sound like this: He's afraid to get hurt again. Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Maybe he's shy or intimidated by me. He just got out of a relationship, need to wake up and smell the coffee, say the writers.
The fact is, despite your good intentions, you are just wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. Unfortunately, often, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions usually reflect the way they feel.
Relationship expert Dr Hitesh Shah says men don't change, just because a woman may want them to. "Women often believe they have the power to change a man. If he spends enough time with her, she can make him fall in love with her this isn't possible. You can seduce a man, but you cannot make him fall in love
with you."
You can seduce a man, but you cannot make him fall in love with you.
Dr Hitesh Shah, Wellness Consultant and Relationship CounsellorYou can't make him love you. But you can grab his attentionBe optimistic: Your upbeat attitude will rub off on him. If you are a happy person, he'll feel good in your company, and might want to spend more time with you.
Be yourself: Don't sideline your opinion just so you can agree with him.u00a0 He'll think you don't have an opinion to begin with. Take a stand when you discuss issues close to your heart. He might appreciate it.
Play hard to get: Men fancy women who are unattainable. It's the chase they enjoy. Landing a woman who'll throw herself at them, is so mundane. Make him work for your attention, if you want to grab his.
Women should get the hint if:
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...a guy has no time for you, makes excuses not to see you, doesn't return your calls.
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...he doesn't, hasn't made the effort to spend time with you.
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...he picks a fight easily, gets irritated at the drop of a hat.
He won't introduce you to his peeps, make weekend plansIt would be safe to say he's just not interested if:
He never returns your calls:u00a0 If he makes excuses for not having time to call you, find somebody who appreciates talking to you.
He does not include you in all his plans: How often have you gone out on a Saturday night? A man who is truly interested in you, will plan something special once in while, or make the effort to meet.
He does not make an effort to get to know you better: If a guy is interested in you, he will dig deep to explore your likes, what you detest, get curious about your family and friends. Of course, some men take time to open up. You need to be sure of how much time you are ready to invest in this man, and how long will you wait to know if he really likes you.
He doesn't bother to introduce you to family and friends: If a guy does not bother to introduce you to people who are important to him, you know where you stand.
