Will my second chance at love end in happy ending?

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Dear Diana,

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I've lost my job and my love. I am very frustrated. I had fallen in love with a girl. Her name is Justina. I love her a lot but am unsure of her feelings.

We'd chat with each other in office and over the phone. I've told her several times how I felt. Moreover, we're from different religions. She'd ask me to settle down before thinking about love.

Oneu00a0 day, I called her up for a date and ended up saying something stupid from that day she stopped talking with me. We didn't meet thereafter. It has been three years since.

I just want to restart my love story (with a happy ending this time). How do I express my love? I still haven't settled down and am doing a part-time job. Please don't ask me to forget her. I cannot!

Mahesh

Dear Mahesh,

Well, something you said, did offend her. She isn't likely to forgive and forget, given your sorry state of affairs.

Indeed, why blame a failed relationship for your failures in life? In three years, she's moved on, but you're still the same old Average Joe refusing to get off his backside, get a full-time job and actually impress her with deeds rather than push her away with harsh words. Get a proper job, prove your worth, get the girl! How difficult is that?

Na-na karte, inkaar hum hi se kar baithe!

Dear Diana,

I met a girl a few months ago. We hit it off very well and soon after, I proposed to her. She accepted. We were very happy together, until I came to know from a friend that she was carrying on with another guy.

I tried to ask her about it. She said that this guy was like her brother. Still doubtful, I called up that guy.

He said that they were in a relationship; immediately after, he disconnected my call and spoke to my girlfriend and then called me back again, this time in denial. She still insists that they're just friends!

Aadarsh

Dear Aadarsh,

This is all very shady business. Either they're seeing each other or they aren't. right? He isn't going to change his mind and lie, because she asked him to, no? He surely has a mind of his own.

There's something far more sinister happening here. Ask her to swear upon her parents' life that it's the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

If she really loves you, she won't lie to you. It will probably tell her that you don't trust her. But wasn't that already the case?

Six years have passed... no kiss!

Dear Diana,

In the six years that I have been dating her, my girlfriend has not once kissed me. I have tried to tell her that it is pretty normal for couples in love to show their affection openly, but she just won't relent.

Her folks are pretty forward and all, so I don't understand her reluctance. What am I doing wrong?

Lovelorn

Dear Friend,

She's not comfortable being intimate with you. Why that is, is beyond me. But I agree, it does sound absurd. Something as small as a kiss is too trivial to make a fuss about.

Given that you have been together six years, it makes the problem even sillier. I doubt that she's being completely honest with you. There's more than meets the eye here. Do some snooping around... but subtly.