Relationships: Quantity or Quality? What leads to a happy sex life

Those few hours in bed cuddling and caressing each other counts a lot. While one set of people believe that more sex leads to double happiness, another think that less frequent can also double or even triple happiness. However, it has been found that less frequent sex may cause a decline in happiness.

Couples in the early days of their relationship tend to have sex quite frequently. However, the frequency declines as the relationship ages. Also, it is not always true that married couples have more sex and more happy with their sexual lives than unmarried ones. There are couples, be married or unmarried, for whom regular access to sex is a mandate to a happy relationship. Having sex once or twice a week can bring deep satisfaction in many of them.

Having sex once or twice a week is termed as 'normal' and 'absolutely fine'. However, not wanting sex at all is neither 'normal' nor 'absolutely fine'. Here comes another point too. How much sex a couple has is not vital, but whether the couple is happy with the sex they are having is vital. Here, quality wins over quantity. Sex is about satisfaction, sex is about pleasure, and sex is about mutual acceptance. Happy couples are those who have sex exactly when they want to.



While speaking about quality sex, another aspect that matters is the length of the act. Many couples tend to finish sex too quickly, while many believe in continuing the act for a longer duration. Unlike men, women usually take a longer time to become totally aroused and attain orgasm. Men need to give them more time, help their women towards sexual climax gently and continue the act slowly and steadily.

While it's true that sex takes love to another level, couples need to get together physically to take their relationship to the pinnacle of happiness. Having sex once in a month or once in two months and so can create a distance in the relationship. Sex boosts testosterone and stimulation of genitals lead to feelings of love and romance.



Making love frequently, to be more precise, once or twice in a week is quite a normal act, which enhances the emotional bond. It intertwines the bond by bringing a couple more close to each other. So, quality sex at right interval and for a proper time duration is the essence of a happy relationship.