07 September,2009 11:03 AM IST | | Vikram Bhatt
I have lived my life on my own terms, which in other words means that I have not really given a damn about who I have hurt, or who has been at the receiving end of my actions. I have glided through life like a feather in the windu00a0-u00a0please read wind as the force of every whim and fancy and the need to break all rules of society.
Two questions here: one, would I do the same things again, given an opportunity to relive my life and given the same choices? The answer is a thoroughly soul-researched NO. I have caused much pain to my near and dear ones and would not like to go through the same route again.
The second question is an obvious addendum to the first and that is, how would I feel if my wife or my girlfriend cheated on me? Would I accept her?
There is a strange duality when it comes to this. There are scores of wives that accept their erring husbands and forgive their dalliances, but how many men would forgive an erring wife and let her back into their houses and lives?
The answer is difficult to arrive at unless you look at it from a very subjective point of view. My point of view is that it's no big deal. So what? So what if she slept with a man outside her marriage? So what if she loved someone outside her marriage?
I think the world is divided into two categories. One that does nothing about the unlawful attractions that they feel, and the other that goes ahead and succumbs to that attraction. There is no one, and I repeat no one, who has been married and not felt even that momentary attraction for someone other than their spouse.
So yes, the ones that only think of adultery and others that commit adultery. What is the big hullabaloo about adultery? And the bigger hullabaloo about exclusivity. Was man as an animal made for monogamy? Man is just an animal for heaven's sake and he is polygamous by nature. Whoever expects a dog or a cat or a rabbit to be exclusive to another dog, cat or rabbit?
It's the arrogance of man that makes him think that he is more evolved than animals. As a matter of fact man, other than dolphins, is the only animal that has sex for fun! No other animal mates for any reason other than propagation.
Its just sex! What's the big deal! Some clothes off, some skin on skin...what is so exclusive about it? Why should it be sacred and saved for one? So back to the question. Yes, I would not care if my girlfriend had sex outside our relationship as long as it was worth it! I don't believe in exclusivity.
I am talking from experience. Women in my life have cheated on me and I have accepted their apology and their need to go on with me, and I have not thought about it for another minute.
I am for adultery in its purest form. This is me. I am in my company and that is what thrills me. If someone with me seeks other company then they are free, completely.
Vikram Bhatt is a director and producer
