20 July,2018 07:37 AM IST | Mumbai | Dr Love
Illustration/Uday Mohite
Talk about it like you talk about anything and everything else. It isn't something to be afraid of.
My boyfriend and I are very close and have been in a relationship since we were in college three years ago. I have just been given a massive promotion at work, which means moving to another city and heading a team there. I don't know how to mention this to him because I don't know how he will react. He may not be able to live without me, and may insist that I give up the promotion if I want to save this relationship. I do love him a lot and believe this move to another city won't harm us in any way. I am also prepared to do what it takes to make it work, but don't think I can sabotage my career at this stage if he asks me to. I have to tell him about this soon and don't know what to do. Please help me.
Why can't you simply tell him about it and why this move is an important step for your career? Why do you assume he can't live without you? A long distance relationship does require more work, but it isn't impossible to manage if the people involved understand and accept what is demanded of them both to make it happen. If you are both honest about whether you want this relationship, your moving to another city for something that affects your life in a positive manner shouldn't be a problem for him. There may be teething problems, of course, but people manage to do this all the time. If you have already decided to take up this offer, be honest and open about how you feel, because that is the only way you will manage to find a solution.
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