Am good-looking, so why don't I have a girlfriend!

I am an 18-year-old good-looking guy. I become the centre of attraction wherever I go.

Am good-looking, so why don't I have a girlfriend!

Dear Diana,

Illustration/ Sameer Pawar

I am an 18-year-old good-looking guy. I become the centre of attraction wherever I go. Many girls get attracted to me and flirt with me but when I reciprocate it doesn't materialise further and fizzles off. Something goes wrong every time. Some say I am too childish while some break it without an apparent reason. I like laughing and making people laugh but I may overdo it sometimes. I have tried a lot to become serious and reserved but that's just not me. None of my crushes have ever gone to the next level. Had I been an average looking guy, I would have consoled myself but being a guy with good personality and looks and not having a GF really hurts. I need a companion. Maybe I am too childish... I have had a lot of trouble in other areas of my life due to this flaw but I can't get over it. Is this really the problem? Do I need a change in my personality? I am lonely and need help!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
A lot of girls with mother-hen traits like to be around "childish" guys and think they can change them. If they give up before they've even begun, it's probably because they don't think you're worth the effort. While it's good being self-introspective, you could simply assume that you're moving around with the wrong bunch. Change your set of friends and note the difference.

Galti ho gayi hai humse!

Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship for two years but I broke up with her. Now I realise I've made a mistake! I want her in my life again but she is very angry with me and doesn't want to talk to me. Help!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Why did you break up with her? The fact remains that you did. Nobody completely heals from a blow like that and one is actually wary when the person who dumped you "realises" his/her mistake and comes running back.

Betrayed in love... twice

Dear Diana,
I am 31 years old and have been married six years. I'm having a very bad married life. We've not been having sex for five years now and and our relationship's in the rut but we don't want to separate. Two years ago, a colleague professed his love for me. At first, I was not interested as he was very young but eventually I gave in and started loving him deeply. Today, I cannot live without him. A week back, he talked about leaving me. I tried committing suicide and he then said that he was not serious about leaving me. What to do... first, my spouse cheats me and now my lover...!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Why don'y you want to separate from your husband? What's keeping you tied to your marriage? Lack of independence? A lesser standard of living? You will have to sort out your love life first. Your lover has been pursuing you for a long time and has been oscillating between a yes and a no. He can't keep you hanging like that. You do not try to commit suicide even if you are that messed up. When things are that complicated, untangle the craziness in your life. If people cheat on you, they were never deserving of your love in the first place!