29 March,2011 08:18 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I have a male friend who is one of my best friends. Everyone used to think we were dating and even suggested it to us, but we decided to stay friends. Sadly, he's moving to a new country for university and this is our final year together. I would really like to go out on a date with him before that. However, I'm scared that he might see it differently. I really don't want to ruin the friendship we have. Should I ask him? Or is our friendship more important?
Dear Geetika,
The truth is, most people deal badly with rejection. Especially if it is a really good friend delivering that blow. Can you stay friends with someone who has spurned your love? If you can, I think you should go ahead and tell him. If this is just a date (as friends) make sure it's pretty clear that he gets that. Go to a place that's not romantic, but is just a hangout. He won't see it differently. Tell him it will be years before you will be able to see him again and you'd like this very much. If you think it will still be weird, ask friends to tag along.
What's height got to do with it?
Dear Diana,
I'm 22 years old, less than five feet tall. I am as pretty as any other girl and healthily thin so will any guy be interested in me? Are all men after tall women???
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Try approaching this more proactively rather than reactively. Whatever the reason guys aren't interested in you (yet) it definitely isn't because you aren't tall. Maybe if you were more confident and outgoing, they'd muster the courage to ask you out?
Hate it when he hangs up on me!
Dear Diana,
I hate it when my boyfriend hangs up on me.... but he does that all the time. I keep telling him how insulted I feel about this but he doesn't seem to care and hangs up whenever he feels like, without even acknowledging that I am in d middle of a sentence. He never lets me explain what I feel and hangs up without even saying anything. Every time I call him and tell him how awful it made me feel but he repeats it again and again. I gave him an ultimatum but he hasn't responded yet. It's getting on my nerves now....
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
Don't call him. He's doing this to irritate you and insult you. In fact, he sounds rather controlling at the same time. Is that what you want? If a man is in love you, he wouldn't do thisu00a0-- he would be more considerate and respectful of you. I would do more for my own self sanity. I would go out and get pedicures/manicures, do my hair differently, go out for walks or jogs, find a part time job (if I didn't have one), I would spend more time with my girlfriends or even baking or learning to cook up a new dish. Don't let him ruin your day because of his own meanness.
