01 June,2011 09:40 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
My girlfriend is a horrid, horrid person and is always losing her temper for the most trivial of reasons. We've been together three years and she hasn't changed in all this time. I don't know how to deal with this. I love her and cannot bear to be without her. We've gone through a lot together -- good times, bad times -- and it doesn't really feel like living if it's without her. So yes, you could say I am addicted to her. When she's good, she's super, when she's bad, you know the drift.... How do I make sure the good times last?
Dear Friend,
Well, you can't cry about something you've put up with for three years. If you want out, be adamant about it and go for it. If you are going to complain about having withdrawal symptoms if you're away from her, I seriously think you need to get yourself checked. Don't behavel ike a loveorn puppy. It's just not done. Agreed, she's a keeper, but she needs to get anger management therapy.
She's worried about two-year age difference...
Dear Diana,
I'm a 17-year-old guy in a relationship with a 19-year-old guy. She's only wary about the complications that might arise out of an age difference. I'm trying to tell her it ain't that big a deal but she won't listen. We're close to a break-up!
Sohel
Dear Sohel,
What age difference? The two of you are just two years apart! What's so wrong about that? It ain't that big a deal, take it from me. Tell her to read this and understand that several couples consider an eight-10 year difference to be worth worrying about. Any lesser is okay by most folks
Name-calling helped. But feeling guilty!
Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship with a married woman. After my marriage to someone else I told her we should part ways. But she refused to listen. I abused and threatened her but she wouldn't budge. I started calling her a bitch. That's when all her love for me disappeared. She'd fight with me all day, curse my entire family and hasn't spoken to me for a fortnight since. Did I do what was right? I am feeling guilty about this.
Maddy
Dear Maddy,
Shouldn't you have felt guilty when carrying on with this married woman in the first place? There is little left to discuss if she wants to continue with the relationship and you don't. Name-calling hurts but one cannot really predict the impact it can have on the other person. I wouldn't blame her for her reaction, because you went about breaking up with her in a way that was quite unbecoming. Isn't this what you wanted, though? So who cares if it's right or not? Live with the guilt.