She's been this way, way too often for my liking

Dear Diana,
I've known this girl for the last three years. I loved her very much but she was not ready to commit. A year later, I came to know that she was already in a relationship. She kept this secret from me. I stepped back but was unable to ignore her completely. She was keen on keeping in touch with me, so I occasionally respond to her texts. She then ignored me, then kept in touch. It's happened three times now. How do I deal with it?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Ever get that feeling you're just playing a supporting role in someone else's love story? This is just like that. If she managed to keep the two-timing a secret for as long as a year, you can expect more skeletons to slip out the closet. No harm in keeping in touch. Just remember, don't expect her to choose you. Why? It's plainly obvious she won't commit. She already has. To someone else. You're just an option. That's it!

How to get her in the mood?

Dear Diana,
I want to have sex with a girl. How should I get her in the mood?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You need to know that she confides in you, trusts you and is open to the idea. Otherwise you might as well consider yourself a disrespectful, immoral individual. Whatever the circumstance, please respect her. As far as "getting" her in the mood, it shouldn't be that much of an issue if you both are interested.

Is it bad to masturbate?

Dear Diana,
I been raised in a Christian home all my life. I been in that phase where I want to masturbate. I'm a virgin, have never been kissed or had a boyfriend. Last night, I masturbated but I get to the point where my eyes roll back and I start feeling guilty. Is it bad to masturbate? How can I get rid of that feeling?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Everybody masturbates. And just because it happens behind closed doors, few will own up to it. Christian or otherwise, you have to remember masturbation is nothing but a safe sexual release. Within marriage, masturbation is absolutely fine as part of a healthy sex life. Outside of marriage, it may help you release sexual tension, which is okay. On the other hand, if you overdo it, it could become obsessive and you may find you can please yourself better than any man you have sex with, which can affect your judgement of relationships.