So what if I'm Manglik... what's the bloody problem?

So what if I'm Manglik... what's the bloody problem?

Dear Diana,
I am 27 and have been in a relationship with a girl for a year now. We love each other a lot and wanted to get married. We are from the same caste, too, but her father is adamant about not agreeing to the match. I am Manglik and she is not. He says he will keep his daughter single all her life but won't allow her to marry me. I proposed a court marriage, she rejected the idea and said she can't go against her parents. She says she'll wait for me until her parents agree. Trouble is, they fix a matrimonial prospect meeting every Sunday. I am in a fix. I can't concentrate on anything. Iu00a0 can't forget her or think about anything but her. I can't imagine my life

Vikram

Dear Vikram,
If her parents' word means the world to her, you cannot do much to convince her to change her mind and decide to defy them. Of course, it is silly of them to say one thing and then go out and do something altogether different. It's absolutely silly of them to try and marry her off in a hurry without so much of a consideration for her feelings.

Confused about my girlfriend

Dear Diana,
I am 24. I am pretty confused about my girlfriend. When I met her for the first time, she was very caring and loving. These days, she hardly replies back to my texts. She speaks to me once a week. If I ask, she says she is busy with her studies. When I call her, she's busy on the phone till late night.

Irfan

Dear Irfan,
Why not make the effort to meet her and sort things out? Surprise her by showing up where she is and offer to help her out with her studies. Show her you're concerned. When she realises how interested you are in what she's upto, she will make that extra effort to keep you updated. Don't really break your head over it. It's just a phase. It will pass. And don't rely on your phone too much to keep in touch.

I broke her trust...

Dear Diana,
For the last six months, I've been in love with a girl who stays in Ahmedabad. The problem is, I broke her trust by revealing some secret to one of her colleagues. I had only done that to figure out why she was upsetu00a0 because she didn't tell me clearly. It was a mistake but she now says she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. I've literally begged her to forgive me but to no avail. What should I do to regain her trust?

Praveer Sarkar

Dear Praveer,
What was the nature of this secret you shared with her colleague? Andwhy was it imperative that you share this secret with the colleague to know why your girlfriend was upset? It all seems quite awkward a way to approach things. Obviously, it was something the revelation of which has irritated her to no end. Nothing you say will pacify her for now. Wait it out till her anger cools down and then try to regain her trust by being there for her no matter what.