Usko hai shaadi ki jaldi, but I will only marry in March

Dear Diana,
I knew this older woman in my teens. She'd flirt with me every chance she'd get. We were separated after my family moved to Canada. Until around eight months back, when I got a job in another city. Life after work was boring. I saw her with her some friends enjoying her drinks at a colleague's wedding reception, she was shocked to see me and gave me a tight embrace.

We started to meet for dinner and movies every week.One evening, she spoke about her split with her live-in boyfriend. She sounded depressed. I took charge, gave her a tight kiss, we made love and a month or so after that, I moved in with her. Two weeks back, she told me she wants to announce our engagement on the 21st of this month. I told her to give me time.

She's upset as she is 38 years and single (I'm just 27 years old and want her to wait till March). I left her place for a week. Her friend got us back on track and has requested her to wait till March as she want settle down by May and start a family. We're deeply in love and I've taken great care to ensure she doesn't get pregnant. I hope she's patient about this.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Is there a specific reason you want to wait it out till March? If there is, you'd best spill it. Convincing her to wait till then is important to you and judging by your words, you are being earnest about being in a long-term relationship with this woman. I'm guessing the caution surrounding pregnancy is because you would rather marry her without complusions of any sort dictating the union. If you are sincere about your intentions, she will believe you.

I love her, she loves my best friend!

Dear Diana,
I've been in love with this girl for two and a half years. We fell out due to some misunderstanding. I really love her but she is in love with my best friend. We are best friends too and I can do anything to get her. What should I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
If she really is in love with your best friend, there's little you can do to convince her to fall for you. If you are persistent on doing so, then you might as well tell her and get it over and done with. If she turns you down again, you better back off.

My darling two-timer...

Dear Diana,
I am a 24-year-old guy. We were in a relationship for two years. But we broke up as she was two-timing me. It has been three years since our breakup and she's now marrying another guy. While I still care for her and love her, she didn't really care about calling me once in these three years, except on my birthdays. I am really depressed. What should I do?

Abhishek

Dear Abhishek,
She has clearly moved on. Why do you torture yourself by still having feelings for someone who wasn't faithful to you when you were actually dating. In any case, she hasn't bothered keeping in touch all these years. Do you really expect her to change in all these years.

She couldn't care less what you feel for her, because you are her past and she is getting married to another man. You have to understand that you broke up with her and that it's a little too late in the day now to cry about it. Were she still interested in you, there might've even been a chance you two would get together. But the way things stand, I don't think they will...