10 May,2011 08:18 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
My wife walks around the house naked but avoids any situation that could lead to something physical. She is the girl I fancied throughout my younger years. We are 45 and 46 now and I still love her and lust after her. But if I suggest we turn in early, she stays up late, working. She avoids kissing and cuddling. We last
had sex on Christmas day. I cook, clean and iron. I buy her nice things. She says her friends envy her but sometimes I feel like a credit card.
Dear Friend,
If it bothers you that she's being a tease, you'd best deal with it. Frankly, I feel you ought to figure out why she's being this way if she wasn't so in the past. Something has happened recently and it has sent her sex drive plummeting. Either that, or she could simply have lost the desire to be with you sexually. And this could have happened for any number of reasons. You'll only know if you talk it out. It will take time but you will be wiser for it.
I'm attracted to older guys
Dear Diana,
I'm always attracted to older guys. I'm 14 but I find guys over 17 years and beyond very attractive. Is there something wrong with me in not being able to like a guy my age?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
There is nothing wrong with you. In fact, when you get older, you get to have a guy who is in almost the same maturity level as yours. So yeah, not a bad thing at all.
My boyfriend might get the wrong idea
Dear Diana,
I love my boyfriend but I'm not totally happy. The other day, I saw my ex and he wanted to kiss me (he's got a girlfriend as well). I almost let him. I have no idea what has gotten over me! If I ask my bf for a break and on this break if I kiss someone, and my bf later on finds out, he'll think that I just wanted a break to kiss someone else. What can I do? Don't know why I feel this way.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
If you are not happy with your boyfriend then why are you with him? Is it something that can be fixed? The fact that you nearly kissed someone else is just a symptom of the problem. Taking a break is nothing more than breaking up, especially as you only want a break so you can kiss your ex, an ex that already has a girlfriend, that's really not a good idea, go back to the drawing board and think again.