New survey says 28 per cent of divorced Indian daters open to second chances

For a long time second marriages have carried a quiet weight of misplaced judgment but a new survey has revealed that the narrative is slowly changingThe new generation is breaking the longstanding taboo around remarriages Over 28 per cent of the survey participants openly shared that they are interested in starting over after their divorce not letting a marriage that ended define the rest of their livesThe study by Indian matchmaking app Rebounce for divorced separated and widowed singles was conducted from midNovember to midDecember among 5837 daters who were previously married Participants ranged in age from 28 to 50 and were selected from both metropolitan areas and smaller cities Rebounces founder and CEO Ravi Mittal commented Remarriages in India were seen as a compromise But the shift thats happening now is eyeopening Remarriages were never about replacement or just finding a companion for old age It is literally about finding the love these individuals deserved a love that is healthier more peaceful and compatibleWomen are leading the shiftSurvey shows that over 35 per cent of divorced women from Tier1 cities find matchmaking apps dedicated to second chances more useful and comfortable while giving love another shot Akriti 35 from Bengaluru said When I finally decided to move on after my divorce apps were so much more reliable than relying on people to find me the right partner I had complete control of what kind of partner I would attract Thats something that helped me find someone interested in me despite all I have been through Survey data also indicates that while women face more challenges they are still emotionally clearer in their expectations during their journey of remarriage than menMen want emotional compatibilityDivorced and separated men between 30 and 40 years disclosed that their biggest fear was not just societal judgment and rejection it was falling back into the old pattern 3 in 5 men ready for remarriage shared they now look for emotional compatibility and prefer discussing goals and emotional alignment before committing Among men 21 per cent shared they still struggle with vulnerability owing to the failed first marriage but matchmaking platforms designed specially for divorcees have helped them open up their vulnerable side to someone who not only understands it but has been through the sameMetros and suburbsThe survey shows that the shift in mindset is more visible in Tier1 cities like Delhi Mumbai Bengaluru Hyderabad where theres a growing acceptance and openness towards remarriages while Tier2 cities are still struggling under family and societal pressure though much less than a decade back Vasu a 38 year old doctor from Bengaluru said I wont say theres no stigma at all here in the metros but yes we care less about what people think For me finding the happiness that I know I deserve is more important than looking like a saint in societys eyes I guess thats a privilege of living in a Tier 1 citySecond chances mean clearer intentionsFor many daters in Tier 1 and Tier 2 cities love the second time around feels noticeably different Theyrsquore entering relationships with far more clarity than they did in their first marriage This time boundaries matter 3 in 4 daters actively prioritise them Theres a visible shift in expectations about 41 per cent of respondents disclosed that they are no longer looking for someone who completes them rather they are seeking a partner who complements their goals values and personality Priya 36 from Delhi commented I am not going to jump into something blindly anymore I value my experience too much to make uninformed and rushed decisions I believe thats whats unique about a second marriage Its so much more grounded mature and overall starts on a stronger footing