Divorced singles reveal deal breakers in relationships that never existed before

Divorce was once considered the end but today thanks to the changing societal perspective for many Indians it is starting to look like the pause before a new chapter beginsThe new beginning comes with a lot of lessons understanding clarity and determination toward a far more honest approach for the next time around A recent study by Indian matchmaking and matrimony app Rebounce revealed that 3 in 5 divorced singles who reentered the dating scene in 2025 now have new dealbreakers that did not exist during their first marriageThe data shows these are not unrealistic expectations but rather practical survival skills learned the hard way The user study was conducted among 5834 active daters who are divorced or separated Participants ranged in age from 27 to 40 and came from Tier 1 2 and 3 citiesThe apps founder and CEO Ravi Mittal said The study reveals a clear change in mindset about second chances People are no longer ready to settle or compromise Second chances have become more about newfound clarity and intentional compatibility Divorced singles are highly emotionally literate they know what didnt work what eventually hurts and they are making conscious efforts not to repeat the patternEmotional availability is now a nonnegotiableOne of the top deal breakers to emerge in the survey is an emotionally unavailable partner Nearly 44 per cent of women and 32 per cent of men from metros and suburbs shared that they have ignored emotional unavailability before excusing it as a hectic schedule preoccupied with office works and even we have been married too long but they realised that being emotionally available is a choice that can be made even at the busiest of hours and in the longest of marriages Tarini 35 from Mumbai said Silence is not strength and quietly staying with an emotionally unavailable partner is not doing any good to your mental health or the health of your marriage I understand that nowThe study reveals that divorced daters are now paying close attention to how people communicate what they say how long they take to say it and how consistent their actions are with their words Rajeev 38 year old pediatrician commented For me slow replies are completely fine I understand that we are all grown adults not teenagers with only love to think of But detachment and inconsistencies are unacceptable I dont want to do the emotional heavy lifting all alone once againFinancial transparencyMoney might still be an awkward topic for young daters but daters focused on second chances are more direct about it calling it an absolutely necessary conversation 6 in 10 people between 30 and 40 explained that it is not about how much a match earns but understanding how responsible they are with their earnings Financial secrecy and irresponsibility have become a deal breaker for many secondtime daters 33 year old Samira from Delhi said It doesnt mean divorced singles are moneyminded Its just that we know how debt or other secret financial obligations on a partner can affect your life Understanding spending habits and to some extent having an idea of someones earnings is honestly practical no matter what anyone says I am working I dont need a provider But I need someone whos upfront and not spending beyond his capacity for showing offSubtle disrespectAlmost 31 per cent of female daters above 30 years disclosed facing subtle disrespect in their first marriage mostly masked as just a joke and everyday dismissals They addressed being talked over often being cut off midconversation mocking emotions and brushing off concerns as you are such an overthinker and now strictly consider any such behavior as a deal breaker in their renewed attempt to find love Paromita 38 from Kolkata said My threshold for all these has sharply dropped since my divorce I dont want a man who doesnt think I deserve respect