A key decision that most career woman will face at some time in their life will be the prioritizing between work and baby. By no means is this a binary choice, but a woman still is the one who has to take this hard decision. I had opted for a three-day work week when my son was born. I wanted to spend more time at home with my baby, so career took a bit of a back seat. During that time, I was passed over for promotion. Twice.

My self-proclaimed ‘feminist’ friends were enraged. My company and boss were termed as ‘regressive’, ‘partial’ and even ‘unjust’. In my view what happened was not discrimination. It was fair. Fair on the man who got the promotion as he was working his ass off, while I organized play dates. I made a choice which came at a price that I am to some extent still paying for.

Why are we so quick to play the blame game? Aren’t we women now behaving in the same selfish way that we berate men for?