Second chances at love can be a gamble. Afterall you didn’t get it right the first time. There is a perennial fear of making the same mistakes again, or maybe even some new ones. If you are an old soul like me, you may also believe in magic. And not just the Harry Potter kind (well a little bit of that too). But the magic of the universe is what many of us place our faith in. It’s the 21st century, right? A divorced woman in her 30s, or even 40s can find true love as much as the single gay guy next door. However, in today’s world even hope has a shelf-life. While the belief is important, we also have to take active steps to make things happen. Here are six steps, to be taken in the said order, to help you overcome the fears while looking for love for the second time.

Spend time with yourself: We tend to lose ourselves in our marriage. We adopt practices which were once alien to us and sometimes we start mirroring our partner. Once that relationship has come to a close, spend time getting re-acquainted with yourself first. Discover the woman that may have got lost in the marriage maze before starting the search for a soulmate again.