Dear Diana,
I'm 32 and my girlfriend is 29. I've been having trouble with holding on to relationships. I've had a couple, but they only last a few months. I've noticed that when I'm with someone I get paranoid and find myself pushing them away. As a consequence, none of my relationships have lasted more than a year. I am suspicious by nature which makes me keep worrying what my girlfriend is up to.
— Uday


Illustration/Amir Bandre

Dear Uday,
It looks like you get into a relationship for the heck of being in a relationship. You know that it is not going to be for keeps, so you keep flitting from one relationship to another. A suspicious mind is always thinking of matters that do not even exist. You are looking for hidden meanings in every thing around you. Your suspicious thinking can evolve into a paranoid personality disorder. You are creating a problem which may not even exist. Instead, just learn to relax and learn to take things one at a time. Worrying excessively is translating into paranoia and will ultimately affect your health. So stop worrying about things which do not exist.