Dear Diana,
We've been married for over a decade. Of late, my husband has stopped being intimate with me. There has been a drastic change in his personality. I suspect that there is someone else on the scene. He tells me there is a lot of pressure at work. I don't know if he is telling the truth. I feel he is seeing someone as he often comes home late.
— Saira


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Dear Saira,
Stop being insecure and suspicious. If he is having a tough time at work, believe him instead of jumping to conclusions. By being difficult with him, it is only making things worse. Try taking out some time together for stuff that both of you enjoyed together. Allow him to express his concerns and fears. He may be having a tough time at work due to which he has lost interest in other stuff. Give him a patient ear and then tell him your anxieties. It is likely that work delays him and he is stuck in the office till late. It does not mean that he is seeing another woman. So get rid of all such thoughts.