According to a recent survey by a popular dating website, 57 pc of women and 48 pc of men are comfortable with discussing details about their sex lives with friends rather than partners
Mumbai Guide, relationship, sex life, bedroom gossip, friends, sexual partners
Priyansh Maru*
32, Marketing professional
If I have a problem with my wife in bed, we discuss it among ourselves. I would rather not have my friends imagining things and giving me solutions, as everyone is equally clueless. I encourage the same behaviour from her too, the only thing is I have to keep my ego aside. So far, this has worked for us.
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Arpita Sahaai
24, Copy writer
It is something I indulged in when in college, gleefully talking about how good the boy has been, both physically and emotionally. Today, I would only discuss my relationship problems, not something to do with bedroom business. If you need answers about intimate issues, googling might give one more options than our friends who haven’t experienced the same problem. But if you spare the minute details, some friendly banter about your sex lives is okay.
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Tara Khanna
27, Media professional
Among all my friends, I have one particular friend with whom I can talk about anything without being judged. And, it helps to talk rather than let these thoughts eat me up from the inside. It would make me uncomfortable to talk with the rest of the girls as they are mutual friends with my partner. I would expect the same from him as a matter of trust.
Sahil Thakur
30, Sales executive
I think bragging about one’s sex lives is degrading the woman; it’s worse if they know the person in question. One never knows when the person might crop up in a conversation behind the partner’s back. As for my partner, I know her friends and trust them, so sometimes, if an issue is troubling us, I don’t mind her quizzing her girlfriends. They have the decency to not make a joke out of it or mention it when I am around.
Mekhla Prakash
29, Homemaker
I don’t want someone to be privy of the issues I face in bed. Neither do I want someone discussing it with me. As for day-to-day relationship issues, it’s always good to talk it out with your friends when you find some free time to let off some pressure. Sometimes, a solution actually comes out of these chats. Intimacy talks with friends is a no for me.