I am 19, she is 18. I met her at a nightclub two years ago...
He's gone away with not so much as a word from him! Illustration/ Sameer Pawar
Dear Diana,
I am 19, she is 18. I met her at a nightclub two years ago, we had common friends and we even started to get along well. We became good friends and slowly started having late-night chats. We grew emotionally attached to each other. We grew physically attached too, but then I got a girlfriend... her best friend. However, we cannot resist each other and continue to have sex sometimes. I really enjoy the sex, and do not know if I really love my girlfriend. I don't know what to do.
ADVERTISEMENT
XYZ
Dear Friend,
The relationship with your girlfriend is one of convenience. The problem with you is... you never stopped loving the first girl. Why did you even get into a relationship with her best friend?u00a0 In any case, you have to decide if you wanna be with Girl #1 simply because you love her more than you love your girlfriend or because the sex is much better; or existent for that matter. If it is the latter, I think you're making a mistake and are going to end up ruining three lives by continuing with this. If it is the former, go ahead and dump your girlfriend and be with the one you love. Provided of course that she wants to be with you too. Check that out first.
I want my parents' blessings
Dear Diana,
We've been a couple for two years now and live in just like a husband and wife would. But I'd like a love marriage with the consent of our families. They're dead against it because we belong to different castes. We thought we'd work, I'd study further and that we'd save up enough to buy a house and stuff and were sure they'd agree two-three years down the line. Are we doing the right thing? I don't want to hurt my parents but they have their own dreams for my marriage but I think all my dreams will be fulfilled only with this guy. What should I do?
Pooja
Dear Pooja,
If all is going well the way there are, why mess with it. If, as you say, you are living as 'husband and wife' anyway, what's stopping you from getting a court marriage done? Wouldn't that act as a safeguard should your parents compel you t omarry elsewhere? Personally, I think that caste differences don't matter if the couple is compatible and are self-sufficient. And by the sound of it, the two of you seem to be. If this guy is your 'life', you should try and do without the parents' blessings for a while. In time, they might come around and accept you. But that's a remote chance. You'll have to make some sacrifices in the name of love.
Subscribe today by clicking the link and stay updated with the latest news!" Click here!
