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Dear Diana,
I have a really sweet and loving boyfriend. He's a great guy, but I am still in love with an ex, who's changed for the better. But I don't know how to break the news to my boyfriend who suffers from depression and is on medication.
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I will always be there for him but my heart is with someone else. I've thought this through, I know what I am about to lose, but I know what I will gain. My ex and I were together for almost two years, and I have been with my boyfriend for a few months. If I could, I could write a book or a movie about my love life with my ex, that's how strong it is. I am not that kind of person who can break up with someone and this is very difficult for me. I don't want to hurt him,so please tell me, how I could break up with him in the nicest way possible?
Garima
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Dear Garima,
Unfortunately, there is no way to do this nicely. You will mess your life up trying to be nice. You have to do, what you have to do, or you will lose the most important person in your world. If you are as sure, as you sound, then there should be no delay - unless you wish to lose the man you love. Just say to your current guy:
I am sorry but I can't continue our relationship because I don't see myself being able to love you like I love him. And by delaying this you are not being fair to either of the guys or even yourself. Your guy will learnt to live with the truth, even if it hurts him for sometime. He will be glad after while that you were straight with him, rather than staying with him out of pity. If he is depressed, and on medication, please have a word with someone in his family, so that they can be there to look out for him, once you've shared the bad news for him.
Has she had enough space?
Dear Diana,
My girlfriend of two years told me she "needs some space". Her friends told her we should not talk or e-mail for a few months. I miss doing things together (not just sex). It's been three weeks. Is it over? Should I still wait for her?.
NV
Dear NV,
Well if u still are around or near her, talk to her and ask her if she still loves you and if she still wants to be with you and if she does then that's a plus. If not, don't be clingy give her some space and if it's meant to be then she'll realize that she shouldn't have left you in the first place. Be patient.
He says we're too young to be in love
Dear Diana,
I am 17. I told my boyfriend,of 9 months that I'm in love with him (we'd never said that before). I thought it would go over well and he would say it back. It would'veu00a0 been okay if he didn't, but instead he kissed me on the cheek and said "We're too young to be in love."
I don't know what to make of that. At the time I was just soaking it all in, also I was feeling kind of rejected so I didn't push it or really even say anything. But now I'm just confused. What am I supposed to make of a statement like that? Why he'd say that? Should I ask him or let it go?
Superna
Dear Superna,
You are not " too young to be in love" but it might be a bit early in the relationship to feel love. You just took him by surprise, that's it.u00a0 You need to spend a lot longer getting to know someone before you can truly call it love. Don't feel rejected. He just wasn't expecting that just yet and responded very maturely.
At your age, guys are usually the ones who say I love you way too early, in hopes of being charming and scoring points with their gf. I started dating my hs bf when I was 16 and we both thought we were in love but looking back it was just intense chemistry and mostly hormones, that love does not compare to the love i have felt as an adult. Don't be upset and don't bug him about it, act normal and just be yourself and let him be the one who sais it first next time:)