I can see love in his eyes but he is not telling me

I have been observing this guy in my office since November 2010. For sure I know that he loves me. But I don't know how to get him to speak to me and tell me

I can see love in his eyes but he is not telling me

Dear Diana,
I have been observing this guy in my office since November 2010. For sure I know that he loves me. But I don't know how to get him to speak to me and tell me. That look in his eyes and the way heu00a0 looks at me says it all. I don't want to take any impulsive step, as I want him to come to me in his own time. But my biggest regret will be if one of us quits the office and we have still not been able to speak to each other.u00a0 We just exchange glances, that's all, but one thing is sure he cares for me. You can say that I can read his mind and I know for sure he loves me. I am a woman I need words too. I wish at least once he could tell me I love you. It looks like I will have to wait my entire life for him!
-u00a0ES

Illustration/Satish Acharya

Dear ES,
You are a woman in love, alright. But you are also a face reader coupled with a mind reader. And you are keen to wait for a lifetime for him. My girl, how can you be so sure that his stares mean that he loves you? Chances are that he has something else on his mind too! Maybe what you assume is true, so why not strike a conversation with him? It is not difficult as you all work at the same place, your colleagues could help you strike a conversation with the guy. Or then will you know what you have assumed for months is true or not. And I really hope it is in your case.

My kid does not listen me

Dear Diana,
I have a 15-year-old daughter who just refuses to listen to me. She is adamantu00a0 and stubborn. I know she can't cope with the pressures of studies, tuitions and school. Often she is so stressed up that she falls ill. How do I help her?u00a0
- Renu

Dear Renu,
It's tough handling a rebellious teenager but there are several parents who are in a similar situation. You need tact but at the same time do it lovingly. First, draw up a study schedule for her so she can balance work and play. Reward her when she does well at school. Take her for short trips and outings. Above all, explain to her that you care for her more than anyone else.

I have found my Dream Man, but too late

Dear Diana,
I am a married woman with a kid. It was an arranged marriage. My relationship with my hubby has been lukewarm. I never knew what it was to fall in love with someone. Now at the age of 37, I have found love. I have fallen for an office colleague and he says he loves me more than anyone else. We have got physical too. I wait for his SMSes, his calls and emails. He is everything I dreamt about in my dream man. Even if for a day he does not talk to me, I get so irritated. Can I have a future with this guy? He is married and has kids too.
- KR

Dear KR,
How can you be sure that this guy is in love with you? Chances are that he is looking for some fun outside marriage. And he has found you to be willing to satisfy his sexual desires outside marriage. You both are having an extramarital affair and this is going to hurt a lot of people around you. Have you thought about your husband, his wife and the children. I am sure that you know that a future with him is not possible and that he will one day walk out on you when he no longer gets the satisfaction. My girl, you need to work on your marriage and save it from heading towards disaster. Also, you will be creating professional upheavals as you both work together.