I am a 19-year-old Mumbai girl and have just passed my HSC exams this year. I plan to take a year's gap from studies
Dear Diana,
I am a 19-year-old Mumbai girl and have just passed my HSC exams this year. I plan to take a year's gap from studies. I am keen to do photography and want to check out the scenario about the centres I can apply for in the field. Due to which I want to travel. Recently I moved to Pune, as I have several friends and relatives there, and have enrolled for a part-time photography course. I even found a place to live. But my problem are the roommates -- they are a pain. I just don't get along with any of them. Due to this I'm already regretting my decision to move and skip an academic year. But at the same time I don't want to get back and enroll in a college just for the heck of it. What do I do? I have already paid three months rent in advance which is non-refundable.
-u00a0Lorna
Dear Lorna,
How much time do you spend with your roommates? They are not your family members that you need to spend time with them. I am sure you are out for a greater part of the day. Just let them be, it is better to ignore their shortcomings. Live and let live as they say. If you feel that you should move out, give your landlord adequate notice so that it is easy to move out. Living with a group of strangers is never easy, especially when they have divergent viewpoints. I am sure even at home, you come across family members with whom you have a difference of opinion. It is better to ignore them. Spend time with your pals and the extended family members you have in Pune. Else, set forth with your camera and capture the city's sights. Remember this is a temporary arrangement, and this too shall pass.
I feel like calling my ex...
Dear Diana,
Though we parted ways two years ago, I have not forgotten my guy. Not a single day passes when I don't remember him or the time spent with him. He is married now but I know he still cares for me. It was due to certain circumstances that we had to go our ways. He told me that he did not want any contact with me. But I told him he can still be my friend. He said that was not possible now. I feel like calling him but I know he will hang up. What
do I do to forget him?
-- NR
Dear NR,
It is clear from your letter that your man has moved on in life but not you. You are still stuck to him. My girl, it is time you wake up and smell the coffee. Your man has gone and moreover now married to someone else. Let him go. There is no point in thinking about him or trying to call him. It will only make it difficult for you to overcome it.u00a0 He does not want to be in touch for obvious reasons -- he knows you still want him. So the only way out is to cut off all ties. Get going in your life and begin anew. Let him be a part of your yesterday. There is no place for him in your life now or for you in his life. Over time you will forget and you will have to make a start.
Not in a hurry to wed
Dear Diana,
My parents are groom hunting for me and I don't like it one bit. I am 24 and have just started working in a travel agency. I don't want to get married as at this stage I find my job exciting and also gives me a chance to travel with the tour groups. How do I tell them I am in no hurry to tie the knot?
-u00a0KT
Dear KT,
At your age your parents' concerns are understandable. But there is no point overreacting or just staying clear from the process. At the moment they are only groom hunting, it is not as if they are forcing you to tie the knot tomorrow. Enjoy your job and your trips, there is no harm if your parents are looking around, it takes a while to find the right guy too. So till then relax... may be you yourself will Mr Right?
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