I don’t want to commit myself at this stage

I met this girl recently at a cousin's place (she stays in the same building) and I am pretty confident that she likes me

I don't want to commit myself at this stage

Dear Diana,
I met this girl recently at a cousin's place (she stays in the same building) and I am pretty confident that she likes me. It's been over a month and we get along very well. She cares about me and is worried when I don't call her. She also confides in me things that she won't tell other people. My cousin tells me that she is in love with me. She tells me that she has never been as friendly to any guy before. I am 22 and she is 20. What should I do? I don't want to get serious at this stage as I am doing my management studies.
-u00a0Jaydeep

Illustration/Satish Acharya

Dear Jaydeep,
It looks like that the girl is infatuated by you as it is the first time she has met a guy who she is comfortable with. She is just letting herself go. But your stand for the moment is correct. You have to concentrate on your studies and she on her work. At the same time, there is no harm in a friendship. Right now, let her know that she is not just a friend but a special friend. She has been honest with you, so you, too, can tell her that your management degree is more important to you at this stage of your life. Tell her right now let us just be friends. You can think about taking it to the next level when the time is right. I am sure she will understand.

My guy suddenly dumped me

Dear Diana,
I was in love with a guy I met through friends. We went around for two years, till one day he decided that he was no longer interested in me. He just stopped communicating with me. He has not given me any reason nor did I do anything that would have made him cut off all ties with me. A few days ago, out of the blue, he called me to say that he cannot carry on with me. He gave no explanation nor did I ask him. I feel cheated, hurt and humiliated. But as we kept our affair a secret, I cannot even talk about it to anyone but him. Why did he do this to me?
-u00a0Sheena

Dear Sheena,
The reasons are best known to him and after being with you for so long he did not have the courage to tell you. This man is surely a wimp and a spineless individual. You are better off without him. No doubt it is going to be very difficult for you but this is something you will have to bear till time heals. It is better that you move on it life (not that it will be easy) but you have to. There is no point mourning over what happened because this guy surely did not deserve your love. There is no point even having a conversation with him as he is a coward and will never tell you the truth.

My son is going abroad... I am worried

Dear Diana,
I am a 46-year-old woman with two children. Come September,u00a0 my elder son leaves for the UK to study. He is 18 and brilliant in studies but I am worrying myself sick already about how he will cope alone there. This is the first time that he will be away from home.
-u00a0Ramya

Dear Ramya,
I can truly understand your state of mind. It's not easy for a part of you to let go. But you have to. You will be surprised how youngsters can take care of themselves when on their own. At home as everything is taken care of they don't bother about doing anything. But left to themselves, they have to. Stop worrying and make the most of the days left before his departure.