Diana will solve it! Write to Diana at diana@mid-day.com, or fax her on 24150009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012
Dear Diana,
I've been married for four years. Ours was an arranged marriage but we love each other. I am very happy with him, except for the fact that he watches porn.
I can't accept it and it makes me feel insecure. Why does he have to get turned on by other women when he is in a relationship with me?
To make it worse, he lies about it. He promises me that he won't watch it again and then carries on behind my back. 
He downloads it on our computer in our home and it makes me sick. I really don't know what to do. It's either live with him and porn or without him.
u00a0
I love him and am afraid of living without him! I don't know what to do! He thinks I'm overreacting. Am I?
Neha
Dear Neha,
Porn is a turn-off for most women. Make him understand that it is okay if he watches porn but he can't keep it on the house computer.
u00a0
Tell him it bothers you. But, as long as he is not a porn addict, you have nothing to worry about. All men watch porn at some level.
There's nothing wrong with that, as long as it doesn't affect your sex life in some way. You should not let it make you insecure.
u00a0
It's not about you but some weird fantasy. Don't take it personally, it's just a quick gratification and nothing more.
I think every woman in a relationship with a man is confronted with this at some point. If nothing else is wrong with your marriage, just let him have his fun.
In search for a friend with benefits
Dear Diana,
I want to know what girls think about theu00a0 whole 'friends with benefits' idea.
Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and though I get lonely, I don't want a committed relationship for a good while. How do I go about initiating it?
Jatin
Dear Jatin,
I don't think you will find many girls who will be ready to get into this arrangement.
And if you bring it up with your female friends, I'll bet you will be left with only male friends. You want regular sex, but not a relationship? Good luck with that, dreamer.u00a0u00a0u00a0
Worried about poor performance...
Dear Diana,
I am a 24-year-old guy with not much sexual experience (just twice) but I am now very happy in a relationship with a girl I love and want to have sex with.
The girl is a virgin but she's told me she is ready. The trouble is, we have tried to do it twice and I've not managed to get an erection!
I do not normally have erection problems therefore I know it must be down to nerves, and if it was to happen again I think there could be serious problems for our relationship. Any advice?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
Start by not touching yourself for some time before you plan to sleep with her.
That will keep you in an aroused state and after a few days you will want relief. I think it might be playing on your mind that she is a virgin, and you are probably worrying about hurting her.
Was your experience with a virgin too? Just try not to think about it and concentrate on how sexy you find her and you should be able to do it.
My advice is to simply get comfortable with her in bed, and see how it goes. Don't decide you will "do it today." Get to know her body, get warm next to her, the rest will follow.
ADVERTISEMENT
Subscribe today by clicking the link and stay updated with the latest news!" Click here!
