Every couple suffers periods of asexuality. We crack the code and tell you how to get things up and running again
Every couple suffers periods of asexuality. We crack the code and tell you how to get things up and running again
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Get serious
To make a relationship work is a job in itself, and if you've been missing that spark, it's no cakewalk at all. If ignored, the problem can lead to a split, two-timing and even domestic violence. So, don't take it lightly. It's important that you identify it on time and repair the damage asap. "The entire experience could be traumatic.
Couples suffering from it must take counselling, because with time, it becomes too acute to be handled," says Dr Anup Dhiris, sexologist and andrologist. "Sex should be about bonding, not binding. Having said that, it's very important that you realise the importance of a climax. A good sex life is one of the signs of a healthy relationship," says sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari, reiterating the importance of passion play.
Kyun ho gaya?
Time changes, and so do priorities. You may be at a stage in life when you're too busy raising children, finishing assets, attending to household chores, your job or family matters, and there's no time, thought or energy for real-life erotica anymore. Further, emotional and economic woes, work pressure and childbirth can result in the absence of sexual desire. If one of you is having an affair, there is clearly a love issue. Even ego hassles could create the dent.u00a0 "Apart from psychological reason, the explanation also lies in biological domains like erection problems and vaginal pain during penetration," adds Dr Anup.
Re-roll the ball
There is nothing wrong in initiating the first step, even if you're the one to be blamed or the one who isn't getting any sex. So, talk it out first.u00a0 Secondly, get up, close and personalu00a0 while your partner is cooking, dusting or watching movies. Fire up those fetishes and kinks; bring her chocolate paint and edible lingerie to show you're interested. Zip off to a nearby hill station; kids can stay with their grannies, and the laptop with the IT department for upgradation. Keep in mind that the causes are varied, and so are the cures. Pick what suits you. If it's hormonal, consult a doctor or if it's psychological, visit a shrink. And if you think you can fix it yourself, nothing like it.
Keep away from...
...libido enhancing drugs, they're of no good use. Don't consult someone who hasn't gone through it. Also, don't expect an overnight orgyu00a0all good things take time. Also, don't hold back from flirting a li'lu00a0it often work wonders.
| Where's sex in Japan? |
| A survey on www.bio-medicine.org reveals that in Japan, 31 per cent people in the age group of 16 to 49 years did not indulge in sex for over a month. Nearly 44 per cent of participants in the survey felt that engaging and maintaining a sexually active relationship with a partner of the opposite sex was far too tiring. With the fertility rate averaging at 1.25 children per woman, demographers are pressing the need of 2.1 children per woman to maintain the requisite population. |
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| Sex tips for a magical wedding night |
 * Take things slowly: There are lot of fantasies associated with the first night, but don't rush into stuff. Slow and steady wins the race.* Read up some sex books: Whether or not you're a virgin, research is always enlightening and gives you that edge. * Talk to each other: Spend some time relaxing, talking about the wedding, and about your love for each other. Thisu00a0 will surely help in setting the mood. * Wear something special: Sexy lingerie can really help the mood. Pick something that's a little kinky or unusual, and he'll be all excited. * Try something new: Perhaps there's been something you've been wanting to try? Your wedding night gives you a chance to experiment, though don't try weird stuff the very first time! |
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