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Dear Diana,
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The thing is, I'm madly in love with her and really want to have children with her. Her doctor says it is possible to reopen her tubes, but the success rate is only 30 per cent.
I really love her and want us to have a baby and get married. Now, she says, she can't go through surgery and that she's putting a lot at risk since I'm going to marry her only if she gets pregnant.
Do you think she is right or am I? If I truly love her, what should I do?
XYZ
Dear Friend,
For one, don't put so much pressure on her to get pregnant. Your 'true love' seems very conditional to me.
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Society isn't too kind to women who have children out of wedlock in this country and hence, her reluctance is quite obvious.
Also, it seems you're sending out all the wrong signals by putting out an 'either-or else' ultimatum. I don't think she wants any more children.
Of course, that's really her decision to make entirely. What's even more disturbing is the possibility that you will dump her first chance you get, should all your attempts at getting her pregnant (God forbid) fail. That's asking for too much.
Will age gap crease our love?
Dear Diana,
We're in love. We're cousins. Our parents are aware of the close bond we share and are okay with it. In our community, it's even acceptable for cousins to marry.
The only trouble is, he's six years older than I am. He's caring and very loving. But I need to know, will the age difference pose problems for us later on?
You see, we have discussed the possibility of marriage and children thereof. Am I getting into something I'm unprepared for?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
There's this general misconception that a substantial age difference is the reason for most break-ups, where such age chasms exist.
I feel it all depends on how well you connect with your significant other. An age difference (especially if the girl is older) is usually a bone of contention with parents.
If he's what you've always wanted in a partner, I'd say go ahead and get hitched. About your preparedness, I have no inkling.
Addicted to her lovely lips...
Dear Diana,
I'm attracted to women with huge lips.u00a0 I recently met a woman from Kerala with the biggest lips I've seen. She loves tongue-kissing very much.
One day, she invited me over to her residence and we had wild, very passionate sex. Then on, I have turned into her sex slave. What should I do now? Is there a way out for me?
NK
Dear NK,
You're only lusting after her. And while lust isn't all that bad, provided the outcome thereof, is consensual mutually pleasing sex; too much of it can drive you crazy if you aren't up for it.
Like any addiction (on your part or hers) is going to leave you wasted, like an empty shell. Is that something you're okay with? Decide on the terms of the affair before going any further, would be my advice.u00a0
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