My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for the past three years. It's been an amazing relationship for both of us and we have decided to get married.
Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for the past three years. It's been an amazing relationship for both of us and we have decided to get married. But there is one mighty problem. We both have had our share of relationships and have been completely honest about them to each other. 
Our pasts don't matter to each other, except for this one thing. During one of her relationships, she willingly made a sex tape with her then boyfriend which found its way to the internet. She went through a fair bit of trouble for that then.
This incident doesn't bother me, but I have cousins and uncles and there's a good possibility that one of them might have already come across the tape or might do so, in the future. Their opinions don't matter to me, but my parents' does.
What if they come to know about it through them? I want to know if we should keep this a secret from my parents and cross the bridge when we come to it or should we be upfront about it to my parents before the marriage? They might accept my girlfriend or completely cast us off. Her parents know about it and have forgiven her and moved on.
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Dear Friend,
Get this. It's her past. She made a mistake. People make mistakes. And however big those mistakes are, if you love her enough, youwill find it in your heart to forgive her and forget about it. It's a good thing that it doesn't bother you and I can understand your apprehensions about your family members inadvertently finding out about the tape. But understand this, you will have to tell them now.
Keeping it a secret now won't help matters. If you are confident that your parents can handle the negative attention should their community members or relatives taunt them, go ahead and tell them. But remember this, it is you who will spend most of your life with her. If you are cool with her past, nobody's opinion except of those closest to you should matter. Even after that, you ought to do what you feel you should.
What's wrong with teen girls loving horror?
Dear Diana,
I am 16. I love anything to do with horror ufffd movies, novels, games, even theme parks. But my parents feel it's not the right thing for young girls to be interested in and they want me to find a different hobby. What do I do?
Supriya
Dear Supriya,
I personally feel there is nothing wrong with loving anything out of the ordinary as long as it doesn't border on obsession. Given your case, I do not feel that they should be worried about this "hobby" of yours. At least, not for now. You seem mature enough to know the difference between qhat's real and what's not.
Will a fort trip inspire him to love history?
Dear Diana,
My son is 10 years old. He is a very bright student yet, for some reason, he hates studying history. I've tried to explain the importance to him and even taken him to watch some historical movies, but nothing seems to work. I thought I'd take him to see the forts in Maharashtra during the summer vacation, but I am not sure if it is a good idea. Do you think it will help?
Nalini
Dear Nalini,
Don't push him. If he is as bright as you say, he will perceive the attempts to force him into an education of history, as nothing more than a compulsion. If you want a child to love any subject they hate, make it simple enough and interesting enough.
Sightseeing at forts will only be a productive activity as long as you have a guide that is perceptive and understanding of what a child will like to hear. Also, it would only make sense taking him on such a trip if it is part of his syllabus.
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