Dear Diana,

I no longer find my husband physically attractive anymore. I married him when I was 24, I am 40 years old. The last time we had sex, I hated every second of it. I have two children, and honestly feel I am now only with my husband for their sakes. I was once very happily married. My husband ruined everything by cheating. I discovered he has cheated many times, but always denied it.

I made the decision to stay with him rather than ruin my children's lives. If that is the wrong decision, then that is something I will have to deal with. My best friend/lover came into my life and changed everything. I have never felt love like it. But unfortunately, we both knew we could never be together and he has had to make the decision to end our friendship. I am left feeling totally heart broken. I have never set out to ruin anybody's marrage or life. Some-times, love takes over.

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Dear Friend,

Is his infidelity the only reason why you no longer "find him attractive" or is that just a ruse to seek separation? His obvious denial has worsened matters. Moreover, I do feel staying back in the marriage is the wrong decision because you continue to make yourself miserable about it.

Moreover, your lover has ditched you at a time when you need him the most. I don't blame him. Most married men would rather stick with their wives than begin life anew with a lover. All said and done, though, there are some things you have to get over andu00a0 hope it all works out in the end.

How do you know when love is true?

Dear Diana,

How does you know when true love is true love? Or does it even exist?