Dear Diana,
I met a girl online, she said she was 25 years old like me. A few months of bonding later, she revealed she was 30+ and married, a year later she tells me she has two children. We still continue chatting. One day she gets a bit naughty with me -- flirty texts, hot chats, webcam fun, which leads to a blow-hot, blow-cold situation and I am not sure what this is all about.

I take it as lust and some harmless fun on the web. Then two years later, I have a fight with my parents and on the spur of the moment, took a bus and travelled 24 hours to this woman's place. She welcomed me with open arms, literally. I stayed at a hotel and she visited me the first night.

We started getting intimate and I realised it was wrong. I told her to leave. I returned home, apologised to my parents and stopped all contact with this woman. But two years later, she started wooing me to come again. She doesn't talk about marriage or love. I don't know what she wants from me. She never complains about her husband or her family life. What is this all about?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You are probably just a distraction to her. Don't be surprised if there are more like you in her life. that would explain the blow-hot blow-cold routine. Also she is a married woman, so there will be times when she will not be available. But you have to accept that.

Yours is not a relationship where either of you owes the other an explanation. Why are you trying so hard to figure out what the future of this relationship is? It seems to be fun for you. You are not in a relationship, so you are free to enjoy it for what it is. But make sure you cut contact with her, once you start dating.

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