Dear Diana,

I am a 32-year-old guy. I have been happily married for the past three years and am pretty satisfied with my wife in all ways. However, I recently met up with my ex after four years. I was in love with her when we were going out and I even intended to marry her but she had turned me down.

After that, we recently met up casually a couple of times and ended up having sex. Now, I feel the guilt of cheating and I regret what happened, it took place on an impulse and I do not intend to have any extra-marital affair. This has only happened once but the guilt within has made me feel like a cheater. In my whole life, I have never had any other affair except with this woman. There is no other woman in my life, except my wife, whom I love too much. Help!

Dharmen



Dear Dharmen,

All said and done, you did cheat on your wifeu00a0-- doesn't matter if it was once or twiceu00a0-- it did happen. You could tell your wife all about it and that you are sorry about it, for starters. Do so, regardless of the consequences, accept that you have made a mistake and that it will never happen again. If she decides to have faith in you, you stand a chance of making this marriage work. If she doesn't want to give you a chance in hell for even that single transgression... well, there's little you can really do. You ought to feel guilty about what you did. It was wrong. It will hurt her that you had to go to bed with another woman behind her back, but she has to know.

Have a crush on a younger girl...

Dear Diana,

I am married and have a year-old baby girl. I have a crush on this gal who stays in the next building. We exchange glances when I go down into my compound. She is always on the phone or busy with her studies. Now, I can't sleep nights because I think of her a lot. How do I ask her out for a date? Would it be right to approach her? Please tell me.