Dear Diana,
I am 33, have lived in Mumbai all my life. Last year, I had an arranged marriage to a girl from my parents' hometown in central Maharashtra. She has studied up to Std 12 but is entirely na ve where sex is concerned. I gave her time and was pretty patient about it. We talked about it and I waited till she was comfortable about it. One of the things I used to "educate" her was porn. It turned out to be extremely helpful in knowing what each of us wanted. The problem started after that. She is a housewife who has nothing to do all day (I have employed servants to do the housework).

She started spending most of her time on the internet watching porn and invariably, became an addict. She wanted to try the different things that she saw there and though I initially enjoyed those experiments, now she has moved on to deviant things. She now vehemently wants to pursue a swinger's lifestyle, something I don't support. This has led to friction between us. I know this is my fault but I do want to rectify my mistake. I love her to death, so leaving her isn't an option. Should I give in to this lifestyle (something I am not comfortable with) or should I say no, risking this wonderful woman to drift away from me?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Restrict her access to the internet. Put in parental controls on your computer and lock your files with passwords. What she cannot get to, she will not seek. She will experience withdrawal but that is expected. Talk it out with her and tell her delicately that she needn't try out everything she sees in porn movies. If she still doesn't get it, tell her point blank that swinging isn't an option at all.

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