I'm her own personal yo-yo.u00a0 What should I do?

Dear Diana,

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I like this girl... and how! We met five months back and usually speak over the phone. We keep messaging each other. We always have decided to go out on a date but it has never happened. We have met thrice but hardly spoke and did not spend much time out. A few days later, she told me that she has a boyfriend and she asked me to stop calling her or messaging her. A month later, she called me and asked me to meet her and told me that she had broken up with him. After that, she told me her boyfriend was back in her life. I started avoiding her but she kept callingu00a0 and messaging. Does she really like me or am I just a friend to her? A fewu00a0 days back, she told me that she broke up again. What should I do? Should I tell her how I feel about it all? Or should I just let her go?

Confused

Dear Friend,
Let her go. You're always going to be second best for her. There are always going to be comparisons with the guy and you are not going to like it. She doesn't take time to date you because she doesn't see the point. Why are you degrading yourself by being a supporting act in your own love story? I am sure she sees you as friend first, a sympathiser later, and lastly, if at all, boyfriend material. You deserve better than someone who treats you like that. And if you do,u00a0 just because you love her, you'll never forgive yourself for the time you wasted pining after her.

Office mein bossy, lekin baahar sehmi si

Dear Diana,
My colleague recently proposed to me. She's my senior (experience-wise) but is the same age as me. We get along well but she tends to be quite bossy when we're in office. However, whenever we go out on dates, she behaves all coy and demure. I feel like I'm dating a split personality!

Tahir

Dear Tahir,
At the workplace, she has to show a domineering side that most people are familiar with and will respect. She cannot cut corners when it comes to you in office. She has to behave professionally u2014 like she would with another colleague. Outside of the workplace, it's another story. She can behave however she feels like.

He gives me nothing!

Dear Diana,
My husband has zero sperm count. His hormone levels are also disturbed. He is like a 14-year-old child. I think he is also a liar. I came across some of his past medical reports, too. His family and he lied that they knew nothing about it. I got his business on track (and even his brother's business). But he gives me no money to buy anything. We live in a small room. He gives me nothing u2014 no child, no space, no money, no security! What should I do ?
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Priti

Dear Priti,
Treat this as a bad investment, cut your losses and quit while you're ahead. You have nothing to lose except your dignity and your self-satisfaction by staying in this relationship. Even with hard evidence, to say that they knew nothing of his medical condition is blatantly heinous on their part. And if you're the brains behind the business, why do you need to ask them for money. can't you have the funds you need transferred into your own account? Don't be tied up to something that's offering you nothing in return u2014 emotionally or otherwise.