Dear Diana,
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half now.However, I think I've fallen for her best friend. I don't know if it is mere infatuation or a genuine liking, but I keep thinking about her more than I think about anyone else. I know this is wrong on my part!

Before we got together, her friend and she had fought over a guy they both liked but who eventually chose her best friend. She had almost gone into depression because of this.

Now I even doubt if I love my girl or I ever had because if I would have, I wouldn't have been thinking about her friend for over four months now! My girl has even confronted me over this, but I have pleaded innocence. I don't know how she'll take it if I tell her the truth. Also her exams are coming up...

P Rai

Dear Friend,
Avoid getting into any more trouble by keeping your distance from her friend. Also, you don't know if this girl likes you back. You would be giving up what you have for something that could possibly not go your way. If this friend took you up on your offer, you'd do best to exercise restraint for some time at least. Also, given their history, it would be best to keep your distance now and then maybe break up with your gal after her exams. Wait a while after that and then hookup with the other girl.

Does this count as cheating?

Dear Diana,
Do you think that masturbating whilethinking of someone else, when one is already in a relationship with another woman, cheating on one's partner?u00a0