Dear Diana,

I have told an ex that I am still in love with him. We had not talked to or seen each other in three years. He emailed me out of nowhere to send me good wishes. So I took the opportunity to tell him how I have felt for three years. He told me he is engaged. We talk every week. He says he cares about me but doesn't think he can do this to his fianc e. He came to see me at my workplace.

We met one day and sat on a bench for hours and talked. I know he loves his fianc . But he has also said to me that what we have is different. And that it is definitely still there. I don't know where to go from here. I always felt like I had lost him but always thought if we were meant to be then we would. But I'm starting to think differently. I'm so afraid to lose him for good. We haven't seen each other in 2 weeks. He says he has to respect her although he says he wishes we could explore this.

He always says things like "Why didn't you tell me sooner?" and makes comments about somehow changing things. I admitted I made a mistake. I admitted I hurt him but as soon as I got his email I knew I had to say something. I don't want to cause anyone pain. I feel terrible if I have caused his fianc e any pain. She knows about it and doesn't want us to talk. But I'm sure she can sense it from him that we do. What should I do? I can't lose him again. Is it too late?

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