Life coach in partnership with Tinder India shares a dating guide for introverts

Young dating individuals value authenticity and honesty and introverts are certainly not shy when it comes to being real on their Tinder bios The term introvert appears 33 percent more than ldquoextrovertrdquo in Tinder bios To support more reserved dating individuals to put themselves out there the dating app has developed this introvert dating guide in partnership with Dr Chandni Tugnait Life Coach and Relationship ExpertIntroverts VS extroverts on TinderIntroverted Tinder users are 40 percent more likely than extroverts to say they are still figuring out their relationship goals Introverts tend to take their time to get to know someone both in friendships and in relationships They often dont like to reveal too much personal information about themselves to new acquaintances either So why do introverts share their personality type so much more in their Tinder bios Dr Chandni explains that ldquoIntroverts often find that their introversion is not adequately taken into account and respected which leads to a greater need for attention to this personality trait Adding their personality type in a dating profile can provide a sense of security and counteract possible misunderstandings as introversion and reticence can be misinterpreted as disinterest or arroganceOverall introverts are 15 percent more likely to seek friendships on the app than extroverted users According to Dr Chandni Tugnait introverts usually take longer to open up and confide in new people in their lives and take longer to build relationships and bonds with others In return however these relationships tend to be deeper and more stable If an introvert moves to a new city for example Tinder can help them meet new people and build their social circleWhat about after the match Introverts often like lengthy indepth conversations and they prefer to have them in the form of long wellthoughtout messages Data shows that introverts on the app are 24 percent more likely than extroverts to be bigtime texters In Dr Chandnirsquos opinion getting to know someone on the app over an extended period is not a waste of time but a great way for introverts to properly assess their match on safe ground before meeting IRL Extroverts often prefer faster overthephone or facetoface exchanges They are more than twice as likely 60 percent as introverted dating individuals to say they like talking on the phone4 reasons why Dr Chandni Tugnait recommends introvertsThe first steps of getting to know someone are easier in the app You can formulate your messages in peace you dont have to sit directly across from your date and if you share a few exciting facts about yourself in your bio you can create a good basis for conversation and avoid awkward small talkOnline dating offers the opportunity to get to know each other more slowly It can create a basis for deeper relationships not just superficial ones According to Dr Chandni this slower form of getting to know someone online is healthier because introverts are not as likely to be driven by their hormones and are less likely to see their match through rosecoloured glasses This may also help you recognize red flags betterTinder matches can be a good exercise in overcoming your typical dating hurdles and developing a routine of sorts Even if it doesnrsquot work out with someone you can still take something away from the encounter for the future and learn from itDid you hit it off with your match Great because meaningful relationships and positive encounters with others can boost your confidence you get feedback and compliments from others your strengths are mirrored and you can learn that others like you just the way you are5 tips to overcome the typical hurdles in online datingDont pretend just so someone will like you Always be yourself Social media gives the impression that we should all always be active and lead the most colourful and Instagrammable life possible But thats not always true you can and should always be yourself then youll find someone who likes you for youBe clear about what you like and dont like for example if your match suggests a big event for your first date but you would actually feel much more comfortable in a more lowkey setting communicate this clearly from the start and stand up for your needsIf youre worried about topics of conversation think about openended questions ie not yesno questions to ask your counterpart in advance What would you like to know about your match What has made them interesting to you so far This will get the conversation rolling because we all usually like to talk about ourselvesTry not to cancel dates at the last minute In psychology unless there is a genuine reason this is called avoidance behaviour and it only reinforces your insecurities Even if it takes effort and you have to leave your comfort zone its worth facing your fears The keyword here is also Practice practice practice Remember that safety comes first URL and IRL and there are plenty of safety tools available to you on the appCollect experiences and reflect on them On which dates did you feel good and why What was the reason and what were the decisive factors for you to like a date Was it the location the activity or a certain topic that was talked about How can you use this knowledge to get the most out of upcoming datesAnd last but not least think about a fixed ritual or routine that you do every time before a date Because rituals have a positive effect on our wellbeing and can convey security These can be quite banal things such as a soothing shower and taking time for styling But a certain song that gives you good vibes or a phone call with a friend can also help There are no limits to your imagination find something that makes you feel good calms you down and takes away some of those predate nervesThis story has been sourced from a third party syndicated feed agencies Midday accepts no responsibility or liability for its dependability trustworthiness reliability and data of 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