Dear Diana,
It's been a little over two months since my guy broke up with me and I am still a mess and have no idea how to go on without him. He said he wanted to be single but he's with someone else now. I don't know how I'm going to cope. We were together four years, so it hurts real bad. Every day I wake up, it's like being weighed under by a ton of bricks.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
With the passage of time, wounds will heal. The pain, too, shall pass. He obviously wants out and has offered a reason. Of course, you can choose not to accept that reason because the truth dictates otherwise. But you'll only make yourself miserable. It will be difficult to forget that you invested four years in the relationship with this jerk and he offered a poor reason for the break-up. But you have to get that this isn't your fault. He walked out because he wanted to. Don't punish yourself for this.

Am in love with a complete jerk

Dear Diana,
I am in love with a complete jerk who takes and takes and never thinks of anyone but himself. Even his family is scared of him. How do I build a wall around my heart so that he cannot get through?