Dear Diana,

I am planning to leave my wife, but am really scared of her. The other day we were having an argument and she punched me. I was too shocked, even so she has hit me before. And she blames me for "making" her hit me. She would say sorry after an hour and promise never to hit me.

What makes this event worse is, she was gonna report me to the police for hitting her! However, I have recorded her stating she is gonna frame me if I leave her. Meanwhile, she says she loves me and all but I'm starting to think she just needs me.

I've been with her through her ill health, I've improved her confidence and made her a better person. We do have good times, but I'm currently weighing up the pros and cons of leaving her.

Name withheld