Dear Diana,

I am an 18-year-old guy. For the past two days now, I have been feeling very restless and very insecure. The thing is, my closest friend who's my own age and belongs to an orthodox family is getting engaged soon.

She has not informed me about this. I came to know from one of my friends who told me that she would personally call and inform me. Her family knows me quite well and though we have been friends for many years, we never fell in love with each other.

We may have felt something for each other at least once butu00a0 nothing after that. But the moment, the news of her engagement struck, I went mute for more than a minute. I felt a pause in my heartbeat, as if I had just missed one.

All these things started bothering me at that time. I was completely disconnected. Now, I don't know why I am I so insecure. Is it the fear of losing a friend, as she won't be able to be in contact with me after her engagement? Or is it because I'm feeling that it's not the right age for anybody to get into a serious bond at such a tender age? Or am I falling in love with her? Or is it all of the above? And why isn't she telling me about her engagement? Also, tell me why does this still happen in India that the parents of a middle class girl, get her a groom at a very young age?

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