Dear Diana,
I recently wrote to you about how my college friend who has a young son is getting married again just eight months after his first wife's death. I followed your advice and talked to my friend about my concerns for the boy's well-being.

My friend didn't get angry at me, but he laughed away my doubts. He said since his wife had been ill for more than a year, his son had got used to the idea that she will not be with them anymore. He also said that the new woman in his life had agreed with him that it will be best if they send the boy to a residential school.

If he is away from his mother's memories, he will be able to better adjust to the situation at home. They plan to send him from the coming academic year.

I was shocked. Being a father of two young sons myself, I firmly believe he is doing the wrong thing. But his statement blind-sided me and I was unable to prepare a good rebuttal. How do I approach him again? Will it be a good idea or will I be interfering? Or am I wrong in thinking it will be a bad idea in the first place?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I think you've done your bit. You have shared the concerns for your friend's son but there isn't anything more you can do in terms of talking to your friend. Obviously, he and his wife-to-be haveu00a0 decided what's best for the child, and seem determined to send him away.

This might not be a bad idea. It might have been more disturbing for him to stay in his home, and see another woman in that space where his mom used to be. Maybe moving away will help him deal with it. A change is always good.

However I suggest you keep in touch with the boy. Write to him, or call him. Give him your number, and tell him that he can call anytime to talk. Tell him that you care for him, and will always be there for him. That will reassure him.u00a0

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