Dear Diana,

Everyone I meet says I am really friendly and really sweet. They all say I have a great personality. Guys think I am cute and sexy but they just want me for sex and of course, I don't give in because I am not the type to sleep around. I want relationship and sex (and not just sex).

My question is, is it because I am easy to talk to and sweet to everyone I meet? Because that's just the way I am. Oh and I don't dress slutty. I DON'T meet guys at clubs or bars. So what could be the problem?

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

Guys your age and older blokes are going to be this way. You are just this way and I really don't see why you should change for anyone else. It's not a sin to have a great personality, to be fun to talk to. That doesn't automatically mean a ticket to bed. Some guys just won't get that into their thick skulls.

Not everybody is looking for a one-night stand. You're a nice girl and you shouldn't have to put up with this. But this is the way guys are. This is the way they are going to be. Just as you won't change to have thme change their perception of you, neither will they! I think it's best you try looking for love in other places.

After sex, she disappears

Dear Diana,

I'm a 20-year-old guy. I have a girlfriend. The problem starts following the times we have sex. She just disappears off the radar only to make an appearance days later. She has no explanation when she does recieve the calls later.