Dear Diana,

I've been married for almost 11 years now and on the weekend of my birthday we rented a resort and invited some friends to celebrate. Well, when he fell asleep, something told me to check his phone and I did. That's when I found out! I had my suspicions since December but no proof.

He was constantly texting a lot. When I asked him who he was texting he would name all of his male friends and his sister. He made me feel so guilty that I believed him. This went on until this month when I found out. He told me that it only lasted two weeks.

When I checked our phone accounts I found otherwise. He didn't sleep with her but the fact that he was giving her the attention I needed and told him about, hurts! He says he's sorry for hurting me. I love him despite all that. I told him we would work things out but it hurts a lot. I try not to think about it but any little thing triggers it... What do I do?

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

A lie is a lie by any other name. The fact that he made you feel guilty about your instincts should tell you something. They might not have had sex but it was wrong of him either way to do this to you. He knew the girl wasn't in it for anything permanent as was he, but a fling, however platonic, hurts! Take some time off, away from him and get your thoughts together before you decide how to deal with the situation.

A threesome to spice up sex life?

Dear Diana,

I'm 22. My husband and I have been together for three years and our sex life is getting boring. I thought about a threesome but I don't think he would go for it. In any case, how does one go about that! Any advice on how to spice up our sex lifewould be very helpful. Thank you.