Dear Diana,

I am a 22-year-old girl. I'm holding down a job and am studying at the same time. Two years ago, I met a married man, a father of a three-year-old. He is nice behaviour-wise and looks-wise also. Before meeting me, he was flirty but after meeting me, he gave it up. I teased him about it.

We become good friends. He was my boss that time. I left that job and was home for two months. We kept in touch through phone calls, SMSes and emails. Because of him, I even got a job in a good firm. Over time, we became close and even married. And maybe I was immature at the time.

Consider that he is 34 yrs old and truly loves me but as a woman I can't spoil another woman's life for my own happiness. And I do feel jealous when he talks about them. What should I do? I can neither live with him or without him. Help me get out of this rut.

Lavina

Dear Lavina,

You're young and seemingly independent. Why have you tied yourself down to a married man and at such a young age. He might be nice and a provider and he might even love you, but there's no guarantee that he will leave his family to be with you. He's 12 years older to you and over time, the age difference will show as will the pangs of being a distand part of his life.

You might feel guilty about making him be an adulterer with you, but at the end of it, it's done with. You are spoiling another woman's life along with your own. the only saving grace is that the other woman (ironic) doesn't know it yet. The only thing that would ease your conscience now would be to have him decide, to divorce him sooner or to stop cribbing.



He kissed another girl!

Dear Diana,

I have been with my boyfriend for over 11 months. Last week, he got completely drunk and kissed another girl. I found out that night as he told me himself. He's behaved like this before when drunk. Give him another chance?