Bani J shares lessons for independent women who want to kick a**

Bani J PicSneha KharabeWe are sitting with Gurbani Judge known to television viewers and Bigg Boss addicts as Bani J at a Versova cafe The blue highlights in her hair have changed colour since the time she walked out of the House as second runnerup in Season 10 She is accompanied by close friend and actor Gauhar Khan also a participant on the reality show and winner of Season 7I had been rejecting offers from Bigg Boss for a few seasons I thought I couldnt do it It was Gauhar who convinced me otherwise And from the day I signed the contract I had no doubt in my mind that I would win The confidence perhaps comes from having won a previous reality show Roadies 4 There like in the House she was known for her resilience routine and controlled reactionsOutside though she is readying for the bigger world of Bollywood Im headed for a look test after this interview And we think theres there enough time to have her share lifesaving lessons for independent woman who want to kick aUnlabel yourself I tell everyone this especially women mdash you cant fit into a slot and you shouldnt try it The biggest label you carry anyway is woman How does it gender matter Whether its work your body or sexuality refuse to get labelledDevelop a routine I had a routine that I followed to the T in the Bigg Boss House I woke up showered worked out had my breakfast sat on the bench and gazed at the sky Everyone knew at all times what I was up to Gaurav Chopra cocontestant told me If you go away I will perish But you will be fine Because you have a set pattern I am always doing something and hence I have less time to dwell on things I dont think about life I doAsk what grounds you Working out is like meditation It keeps me grounded It helps me rid myself of negativity I used to train every day in the House because it was the only way I could ignore the mess around Its hard to be in a restricted space with so much negative energy You need to find your peaceMake good friends Gaurav and I were two of a kind in the House she was even linked to him and we supported each other I think it matters when you are there for someone Look at Gauhar Things are going topsy turvy in her life but she is here for me A support system matters Offer itLearn to shrug it off Most inmates hadnt met someone like me They were surprised about what I ate unlimited eggs how I worked out the way I looked at last count she had 40 tattoos Its possible that they said awful things about me But thats because they didnt get me Say whatever and move on And in that moving on you forgive them too