Updated On: 09 December, 2018 05:58 AM IST | Mumbai | Paromita Vohra
The excess was definitely off-putting, revealing that while elites may somewhat challenge norms of gender, they resist challenging those of caste and class, which maintain their social privilege

Illustration/Ravi Jadhav
Two big movie stars, Deepika Padukone and Priyanka Chopra got married within a week and the events are being mined for meaning, which, such spectacles are never short of. For some, it is too sanskari. Isn't marriage itself based in sanskar, even if it is hipster sanskar? Then, what is too much and too little, except optics? The excess was definitely off-putting, revealing that while elites may somewhat challenge norms of gender, they resist challenging those of caste and class, which maintain their social privilege.
But, the overall feeling the weddings generated was ennui and a slight boredom. They seemed so over-produced, like Bollywood films and their brand placement-wale marketing campaigns, born in the sanitary conditions of the Excel sheet, rather than the thrilling risks of creative desire. This talking-mandap-looking-Instagram, zardozi pragmatism stripped the weddings of the sentiment and sanctity, which usually disguise what weddings basically are: practical arrangements to perpetuate feudal or, at least, patriarchal social equations and consolidate resources. The wedding became something you do, rather than something you feel. That's the best way to rob something of its sacrosanct aura, isn't it? This, as much as the LOL brides, of whom one was richer and the other older than her groom, queered the wedding pitch.