Sorted with Sandhya Mridul

Hi Sandhya,

My husband and I got married under difficult circumstances, 10 years ago. We had to battle parental opposition, money issues (I was a student and he was making very little money) and angst because of our different religious backgrounds (I'm Gujarati and he's Catholic). Still, for 10 years, we stuck together, making it work.

Today, we are in a much better position...my parents have accepted us, his show signs of coming around, and although he is still not making much money, I am doing quite well to support us both. The problem is, all the tension left us with no time, inclination or financial security to have a baby. Today, I am almost forty and craving for a child, but my husband's lack of ambition means that I cannot afford to quit my job and have a baby. His lack of purpose is killing every chance of us having a child, something he refuses to see. Having supported us all these years, I really think it's time he pulls up his socks and gets his act together so that I can take the time off I need. Isn't it his turn to pull the weight? Things are really bad and we are thinking of separating. Please tell me what to do.

Thanks,Distressed