Can you love and lust over two people equally? Some of the guests at Monogamy Disrupted, an evening hosted at Radio Bar, Khar, last month, will say, yes. Mumbai played host to its first polyamorous-only event organised by The Intimacy Curator, a sex and intimacy coaching service. Polyamory is also called ethical non-monogamy, and refers to the practice of having more than one romantic relationship that may or may not involve sex, with the knowledge and consent of all partners involved. Not to be confused with polygamy, which refers to being married to more than one person, this can have various avatars. The triad or trouple refers to three people in a relationship, all dating each other. Quad refers to a similar group of four. Vee refers to one person dating two people, but those two not dating each other. This structure could change over time as people’s feelings and circumstances change. Which makes open communication between partners essential.

Winnie Chopra, 41, a programme manager at Amazon and co-founder of @thegaygazebombay, an Instagram platform for stories and experiences of the LGBTQiA+ community, was one of the 135 people who attended last month’s event. And here’s how it went.