Are you trying to become the metaphorical “green flag” in your relationship, too? Benny Blanco seems to have set a new benchmark with his unabashedly romantic confessions about his partner, singer Selena Gomez.

The record producer and songwriter joined Gomez on the podcast On Purpose with Jay Shetty, and what stood out in the chat was how Blanco makes sure to check in on Gomez via call or text several times a day. He pointed out that women often have a clearer sense of what they need to feel secure in a relationship. Men, meanwhile, might still be figuring it out.